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Neatness counts

Valentine’s Day really brought this home for me: I’m in the best relationship I have ever been in. My boyfriend is spiritually centered, intellectually stimulating…

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Black and white

My 24-year-old son is biracial but passes for white. I am white, and his father was Nigerian. (He died when my children were young.) My…


Home invasion

My ex-girlfriend came over to my house to have breakfast with my roommate, who is friends with us both. The visit was totally unexpected, and…


Unexpected addictions

Since my husband and I separated two years ago, many bad things have been said and done. Although I did not want to separate, my…


The learning curve

I’m a 27-year-old woman with learning disabilities that cause me to be a moderately slow learner. In the last year, I have had three relationships…


Unraveling family patterns

After a 10-year estrangement, I am trying to have a relationship with my older sister (as children we were both molested by an uncle). We…


Volatile marriage

I never know what to expect at home. My wife and I have had numerous screaming fights, which she admits to initiating. She has grown…


My boss wants an affair

My boss and I are strongly attracted to each other’s sense of humor. We flirt furiously. (It’s an office joke.) The problem is that I…



Agree with me, or else!

I am best friends with a woman who works in another department of our organization. We volunteer for projects that require collaboration across departments because…


Hearing the call

I’m a young professional who has been questioning my purpose in life and, specifically, what my true calling is. I enjoy some aspects of my…




I am grateful

God is in the details. It is the small gestures, the unexpected acts of loving kindness between friends or strangers, that momentarily connect us to…


Scarcity thinking

I have great chemistry with my boyfriend of two years. We enjoy each other’s company a lot. My problem is that he lives with his…



When her ex calls

My wife’s ex-boyfriend wants to visit, and I’m uncomfortable about that. He recently tracked her down through her family’s business. He was with my wife…