Voices

If you love yourself …

After a pretty serious relationship, my boyfriend suddenly claimed that he was confused and not ready for the commitment level I wanted. He broke up…


Old-friend blues

I am estranged from a friend that I’ve had since elementary school. Last year when I called her to help me through a devastating divorce,…


Broke my heart (and my arm)

Why do I care about losing an abuser? Our sick relationship (drinking alcohol and fighting a lot) lasted over a year. Last February, he broke…



Stop this roller coaster!

After 1-1/2 years of living together, my boyfriend’s moodiness and silent treatments drove me crazy. I bought a house, but didn’t even tell him that…


Can I disown my brother?

My brother physically hit me and verbally abused me as a child. Now, as an adult, I refuse to associate with him. He recently hit…


Surviving e-drama

I’ve been e-mailing a guy in L.A. that I met on the Internet. I have high moral standards and feel that the guy should always…


Should I stay or should I go?

My husband of three years is quite comfortable without handholding, warm embraces, compliments, spooning or even sex. When we were dating I was in a…


Finding forgiveness

How do you forgive a husband who had an affair? It wasn’t a very long affair and he cut it off right after he told…


Behind the romantic music

Before selecting songs to set the mood for your Valentine, take this test to see if you can tell the difference between love and infatuation….


Thoroughly modern Joey

Aye yi yi! Every once in a while, I’m distressed by the pay inequity between men and women. So when a reader asked who should…


No nooky on the dinner table!

I’ve got a great housing situation (cheap and near my college), but it’s becoming a problem. My roommate (we’re both female) and her boyfriend are…


Was that a unicorn?

I live with my boyfriend who I have dated since high school. We have been together for three years and have lived together for 11…



Why wait? Procrastinate!

I have such a huge problem keeping commitments to myself that I fear I will never achieve my life goals. I have procrastinated so much…