Voices

Basic courtesy

As a nurse, I have “crossed the line” by giving patients rides or buying them food. I befriended a former patient with a terminal illness…


Too young to flirt

I have twins, a boy and a girl, who are in the fourth grade. I am concerned about my son because the girls in his…


Absentee parenting

My brother is a lousy dad to his 14-year-old daughter. He divorced her mother about 10 years ago and married a woman with three young…


Walk out, walk on

Last Christmas, I walked out on my boyfriend. We were planning to visit his family, but I didn’t feel like he cared to have me…


Can you really love everyone?

I am usually pleasantly amazed each week at your insight into people’s problems, but the column about the “You are loved here” bumper stickers confused…


Separate but dating

I told my girlfriend from the start that I was married but had been separated for three months. She insisted that I get a divorce….


You are loved here

Dear readers, This is a story about resistance, patience and love—my resistance, divine patience and an experience of love that was so profoundly humbling that…


Abuse by phone

My boyfriend of four months is everything I ever wanted. He really understands me, but sometimes I feel like he is watching my every move….


Love that lasts

I know how to hook a guy, but how do you sustain a relationship? My dates never turn into long-term relationships. The word “hook” implies…


A friend in need

A buddy of mine is in trouble, and I need to figure out whether I should say something or not. He works in a casino….


Mixed signals

My brother introduced me to a girl who was a friend of his girlfriend. She wasn’t my type, but she was visiting from Mexico, and…


With my little sister?

I moved overseas for work five years ago and recently returned to California to live. In the last year, without my knowing, my best friend…


Singles take heart!

Dear readers, If facing New Year’s Eve without a date seems daunting, take courage from the following edited transcript of my recent appearance on UPN…


The gift of service

Three years ago on December 23, my wife of 12 years died. Our relationship was rocky at first, because I was stuck in my ways,…


Parent with a partner

Last year, I married my soul mate, a woman I’ll call “Holly.” We were both divorced for many years when we met on a blind…


Many unhappy returns

I have a problem that I have never seen in your column, which ruins the holiday season for me every year. I work in retail…