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Move on, sister!

My sister’s husband left her for another woman. My sister refuses to get a divorce because she believes that her husband will return. When he…


Office-party hell

My rule is to wait until I really know a man before having sex with him, but I felt vulnerable after a breakup and had…


Single-family vacation

Eight years ago, my husband befriended a female co-worker, and we began socializing frequently with her, her husband and their sons. Everything was great until…


Defining commitment

Two weeks ago, my fiancé told me that he wanted to call off our wedding unless I paid off my credit-card bills completely. I was…



Aid for the homeless

I have been researching the benefits of moving to San Francisco, where more opportunity exists in my profession. But I hate seeing the streets crawling…




Learn from your drama

I am middle-aged and single, with a solid profession, good friends and a comfortable home. Although I pray to meet the man who is my…


Neatness counts

Valentine’s Day really brought this home for me: I’m in the best relationship I have ever been in. My boyfriend is spiritually centered, intellectually stimulating…


Black and white

My 24-year-old son is biracial but passes for white. I am white, and his father was Nigerian. (He died when my children were young.) My…


Home invasion

My ex-girlfriend came over to my house to have breakfast with my roommate, who is friends with us both. The visit was totally unexpected, and…


Unexpected addictions

Since my husband and I separated two years ago, many bad things have been said and done. Although I did not want to separate, my…


The learning curve

I’m a 27-year-old woman with learning disabilities that cause me to be a moderately slow learner. In the last year, I have had three relationships…


Unraveling family patterns

After a 10-year estrangement, I am trying to have a relationship with my older sister (as children we were both molested by an uncle). We…


Volatile marriage

I never know what to expect at home. My wife and I have had numerous screaming fights, which she admits to initiating. She has grown…