More steps to peace
The most common excuse for avoiding the hard work of becoming a peacemaker is the belief that one person can’t make a difference. In response,…
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Learning from failure
My last five relationships all failed. All five women told me from the start that I was everything they were looking for in a man….
Relationship on autopilot crashes
My girlfriend and I were so deeply involved that I went into relationship autopilot and took her for granted. We broke up, and she moved…
Sex or consequences
Five years ago, I was with a girl. We were sexually irresponsible, and she became pregnant. I was horrified at the thought of having a…
Worried about my wife’s ex
I have a nagging jealousy about my wife’s ex-boyfriend. Twenty years ago, when she and I were friends (and I hoped for more), they had…
Miss Right
My boyfriend has told me, in a non-accusatory way, that he needs me to be more emotionally stable, but I still lose it regularly. Maybe…
Is life over at 35?
I am depressed about my upcoming 35th birthday because I don’t believe I have a purpose. Every dream I try fails miserably. For instance, I’m…
Crowded house
My sister-in-law and her 2-year-old have lived with my husband and me and one of our children for more than a year. She is a…
Dining drama
Somehow I gave my partner the impression that I don’t think she’s very intelligent. She says I ignore her during group discussions, and I make…
Don’t take it personally
I write continuously but have never let anyone read my work. Six months ago, I started my first novel and finished a draft of the…
Under a groove
When the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals ruled the Pledge of Allegiance phrase “under God” unconstitutional, my mind conjured George Clinton. In the song…
If you really loved me …
Please help me choose between my 9-year-old son and my boyfriend of six years. My son and I live with my mother, who has legal…
Give what to God?
My mom and I had a rocky relationship in the past, but we have worked hard to get along better in the last year. Since…
Emotional litter
I saw a man in a parking lot drop a piece of trash. I repeated, “I guess you think the ground is a trash can”…
The waiting game
My boyfriend’s friends have sex with different girls every week and my boyfriend feels like he is missing out. He’s 21 years old and our…
Best friend’s seen better
How much should I put up with from a best friend? Now that we live two hours apart, our seven-year friendship consists of occasional phone…
Step out of line
How do I get my husband to stop jumping every time his grown son wants something? My stepson is 150 pounds overweight. I don’t feel…