Separate but dating
I told my girlfriend from the start that I was married but had been separated for three months. She insisted that I get a divorce….
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You are loved here
Dear readers, This is a story about resistance, patience and love—my resistance, divine patience and an experience of love that was so profoundly humbling that…
Abuse by phone
My boyfriend of four months is everything I ever wanted. He really understands me, but sometimes I feel like he is watching my every move….
Love that lasts
I know how to hook a guy, but how do you sustain a relationship? My dates never turn into long-term relationships. The word “hook” implies…
A friend in need
A buddy of mine is in trouble, and I need to figure out whether I should say something or not. He works in a casino….
Mixed signals
My brother introduced me to a girl who was a friend of his girlfriend. She wasn’t my type, but she was visiting from Mexico, and…
With my little sister?
I moved overseas for work five years ago and recently returned to California to live. In the last year, without my knowing, my best friend…
Singles take heart!
Dear readers, If facing New Year’s Eve without a date seems daunting, take courage from the following edited transcript of my recent appearance on UPN…
The gift of service
Three years ago on December 23, my wife of 12 years died. Our relationship was rocky at first, because I was stuck in my ways,…
Parent with a partner
Last year, I married my soul mate, a woman I’ll call “Holly.” We were both divorced for many years when we met on a blind…
Many unhappy returns
I have a problem that I have never seen in your column, which ruins the holiday season for me every year. I work in retail…
After the election
Dear readers, If you’re a member of the Green, Democratic, Libertarian or Peace and Freedom parties, it’s time to sign up for a cultural-immersion program….
A long wait
I am at a crossroad. I have been married to my husband, a minister, for 25 years. For 25 years, I have been waiting for…
Reconciliation
I have finally realized that my ex-boyfriend is the man I should marry. He endured my chronic moodiness and was always supportive. I had trouble…
Office affair
I think that a co-worker is having an affair. I am not the only one at the office who suspects this. Should I tell his…
Flirt alert
A friend of mine divorced in July. We are part of a group that vacations together regularly. Her boorish husband is no longer welcome. At…
The dating game
I met a great guy through an online dating site. We had two dates. We enjoyed each other but realized that we were not compatible….