Give up the ghost
My ex-boyfriend (the love of my life and best friend) died suddenly. One month later, I ran into a friend who had lost his girlfriend…
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For better or worse
I have been married for six years to a man I thought was my best friend. When we met, he could barely eke out a…
The ex, the baby and me
My boyfriend and I have dated for three years. It’s been intense, rocky at times, but we really love each other. We broke up halfway…
Seven-year itch
For seven years, I have worked two low-paying jobs six days a week so I can moonlight as an artist. After a year of this…
Be a matchmaker for the world
Single women, I have a prediction for you: In the next five months, you will be courted by two men. Both are successful by the…
Troubled marriage
I am estranged from my new husband. Our arguments (pre-wedding, honeymoon and marriage) escalated to abuse. He smokes pot all day, is addicted to porn,…
The nostalgia trap
My five-year relationship ended last summer. He was the first person I ever really loved, and I considered him my best friend and family. Now,…
Should I stay, or should I go?
Sacramento offers little for single people of color. I am a divorced, African-American, Christian woman in my early 40s. I have a beautiful home, a…
I do?
I am struggling with a marriage proposal from my former boyfriend, who moved out of state for a job. I really care about him, but…
The other woman
My husband and I separated for three years but reconciled to benefit our son. Our reconciliation occurred just after my husband began dating a woman….
Platonic impossibility
My boyfriend said that he is not ready to be in a serious relationship, so he broke up with me. We were together for over…
We met, we moved in, we broke up
A year ago, I met an attractive, smart, interesting woman. Shortly after meeting, we lived together for six months. I thought everything was great until…
Just ignore my wounds
The girl I love left me. She says I’m angry and I need counseling. I haven’t acknowledged or dealt with the abuse in my past…
Move on, sister!
My sister’s husband left her for another woman. My sister refuses to get a divorce because she believes that her husband will return. When he…
Office-party hell
My rule is to wait until I really know a man before having sex with him, but I felt vulnerable after a breakup and had…
Single-family vacation
Eight years ago, my husband befriended a female co-worker, and we began socializing frequently with her, her husband and their sons. Everything was great until…
Defining commitment
Two weeks ago, my fiancé told me that he wanted to call off our wedding unless I paid off my credit-card bills completely. I was…